"I don't know yet" is a fine answer, my friends, and one of the bravest answers we can give - especially to our own overactive, bossy minds, who want to know RIGHT NOW what the next move is.
That is the definition of anxiety for me. A bossy mind that wants to know RIGHT NOW what the next move is.
Life isn't that simple. And, if we make it so....we often make really bad decisions.
IT IS OKAY TO PAUSE.
How? Well, you let your heart be the boss instead of your brain....you let your heart COMFORT your brain with words like....
"I know you think you need to KNOW FOR SURE right now...but it's okay.....let's just breathe. It's not the right time yet....we are going to just PAUSE."
Pausing isn't being stuck. Pausing isn't giving up. Pausing is a combination of observing carefully, listening carefully and most importantly, FEELING CAREFULLY for what your body is saying. BEING STILL ENOUGH TO LATCH ARMS WITH YOUR HEART under the shade of a quiet soul tree......so still and so quiet that you can actually hear your own voice.
And why is it scary to pause? Because deep down, we already know what our heart/soul voice is going to say...what it already has been saying...over and over and over.
That voice is not the mean one...it's the kind one...just so you remember. It's the voice that cares about your well-being, your joy, your purpose, YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE.
So....please pause for a moment. You don't have to know right now, you don't have to decide right now. Don't be bullied by ANY VOICES, external or internal....who tell you otherwise.
Your life is too important to be rushed into something that's not right for you, something that you'll have to numb yourself to survive. . .something that might enslave the most luminous parts of you.
Get comfortable with saying "I DON'T KNOW YET"
Then get still. And know.
...and stay still until you develop the courage to live into the answers that your soul is going to give you.
I love you very much. I know it's hard sometimes...but this is what we are here for. You are strong enough.
Your life is too important to not take some time to figure out THE VERY BEST SOLUTIONS for who YOU are.
xo
melody ross
