If you carry around pain from your past, you've identified yourself as a victim. You believe something was done to you, and if only things had been different, you would have been fine.
Well, here's the truth. What happened, happened. But how you hold it is completely up to you. It's true: suffering is optional. You can choose a mindset of blame and victimhood and continue as you are. Or you can focus on your own peace and happiness.
Don't be concerned about other people - what they did or what you think they deserve. Instead, open your heart to yourself and find the place in you that's never been touched by anything that happened.
Nikki Goldstein