I don't want any more life lessons right now. I feel that this year has nonstop, one lesson after another. Some heartbreaking, some exhausting, some meaningful. But all overwhelming. I'm carrying so much already that even the thought of more growth feels like another weight on my shoulders. I'm not looking for the wisdom of the moment. I'm just looking for a break.
I am breaking now. I must find my way out. Staying, when I living a terrible situation is killing me.
Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is surrendering any needless attachments to particular outcomes and situations.
Surrender means showing up in your life with the intention to be your best, and to do the best you know how, without expecting life to be ideal.
Have goals, have dreams, take purposeful action, and build solid relationships, but detach from what life must look like every step of the way.
The energy of someone aspiring to create something wonderful today, teamed with a healthy balance of surrender, is far more effective than someone determined to create outcomes with a desperate must-have mentality.
Surrender brings inner calmness, awareness, and understanding. And lest we forget that our outer lives are a reflection of our inner state of being.
Thus, take a moment to remind yourself of some heavy things most of us attach to long after it's time to let go, so you can loosen your grip on them as you move forward...
Everything gets a bit hard and uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s just a part of the growth process.
Things will get better, one step at a time. And keep in mind that your effort is never wasted, even when it leads to disappointing results.
Effort always makes you stronger, more educated, and more experienced. So when the going gets tough, be patient and keep going. Just because you are struggling does not mean you are failing.
Every great success requires some kind of worthy struggle to get there.
Forgiving a dead parent can feel like an impossible task, tangled in a web of unresolved emotions and unspoken words. It’s a journey many avoid, fearing it might reopen old wounds. But holding onto grudges only keeps us tethered to the past, hindering our ability to heal and move forward.
By Strength to Forgive
Forgiveness can be incredibly challenging when there are unresolved issues between you and your deceased parent.
The death of a parent can leave you with a profound sense of loss and emptiness, anger, but it can also leave you with unfinished business.
Grieving the loss of a parent is a complex and deeply personal process that can evoke a wide range of emotions.
Death puts an abrupt end to any chance of communication with your parent, leaving you with unresolved thoughts and feelings that you never had the chance to express.
After a parent passes away, there is often a tendency to idealize their memory, focusing only on their positive traits and overlooking any negative aspects of their behavior. You may find yourself remembering only the good times and the happy memories, while conveniently forgetting or ignoring the times when your parent may have hurt or disappointed you.
The grieving process is a natural response to loss, including the loss of a parent. It involves a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to acceptance .
There may be a fear that forgiving a deceased parent will invalidate the grief you feel. It’s important to understand that forgiveness is not about forgetting or minimizing the pain you’ve experienced. Instead, it’s about finding a way to let go of the negative emotions that are holding you back and allowing yourself to move forward with your life.
Survivor’s guilt is a common experience for those who have lost a parent. You may feel guilty for being alive while your parent is not, or for any unresolved conflicts or negative feelings you had towards them.
There may be a fear that forgiving your deceased parent will reopen emotional wounds.
Forgiving a deceased parent is a challenging but ultimately rewarding journey towards healing and peace. It’s normal to experience a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to acceptance and forgiveness. Remember, forgiveness is not about excusing or forgetting the past but about releasing the hold that negative emotions have on you.
By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, and practicing self-compassion, you can move towards forgiveness and find a sense of closure. Embrace forgiveness as a personal healing journey and be patient with yourself as you navigate this complex process.
Signs that you are mentally strong.
You cut off people without warning.
You forgive but never forget.
You don't post your every move.
You're Okay walking alone.
You say no without guilt.
You prioritize peace over proving a point.
You adjust but never shrink.
You don't overreact anymore.
You heal privately.
You no longer fear silence.