Where you ultimately end up greatly depends on your daily attitude and response.

It’s all about keeping the right thoughts top of mind so they’re readily available in the moments when we need them most. 

I'm Proud To Be An American

 

I am a proud American, I am one of the luckiest 2.3% people in the world population. I was born here, into a military family. When I was 12 yrs old, I personally saw President JOHN F KENNEDY. It happened on the Air Force Base where we lived. I was a 6th grade student at a military school on base. We all went to see the President. Unfortunately, this was only a month before his death. I remember the national grief.

 "I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all."

I love my country. I believe that Donald Trump is the greatest President in History!

All you people who have Trump Derangement Syndrome are so hateful are a blight on our nation. Stop your disgusting behavior!

Stop following my Blog.

Dementia

 

In dementia, critical, unhappy, or irritable behavior is not a sign of malice or intentional cruelty — it is usually the result of neurological changes that affect the brain’s ability to regulate emotions, impulses, and social cues.

Why This Happens

• Frontal lobe damage: The frontal lobes act as the brain’s “social filter,” helping people hold back rude comments, read others’ emotions, and weigh consequences. In dementia, especially frontotemporal types, this filter is impaired, leading to disinhibition, impulsivity, and emotional instability.

• Loss of emotional recognition: People may not detect when others are upset, hurt, or trying to help, because brain regions that interpret facial expressions and tone are damaged.

• Anosognosia: Some with dementia lose self-awareness of their behavior, so they may not recognize that their criticism or negativity is inappropriate.

• Mood and personality changes: Dementia can cause irritability, mood swings, apathy, or stubbornness. These are often linked to stress, unmet needs, or underlying medical issues. 

Common Triggers

• Unmet needs or frustration (e.g., confusion, discomfort, unmet routines)

• Sensory changes (hearing, vision, smell)

• Medical conditions (e.g., urinary tract infections, medication side effects) AgingCare

• Environmental stressors (noise, unfamiliar surroundings)

Coping Strategies for Caregivers

1. Understand, don’t argue: Reasoning or lecturing often fails because the person may not perceive their behavior as wrong.

2. Check for medical causes: UTIs, medication side effects, or other health issues can cause sudden behavioral changes.

3. Set gentle boundaries: Use consistent, calm communication and, if needed, limit contact to reduce emotional strain.

4. Meet them where they are: Focus on their current emotional state and needs, not on changing their personality.

5. Self-care: Caregivers must protect their own mental health — seek support, set limits, and take breaks.

Key Takeaway

Critical or unhappy behavior in dementia is a symptom of brain changes, not a reflection of the person’s true character. With empathy, patience, and awareness of possible medical or environmental triggers, caregivers can help reduce distress for both the person with dementia and themselves.

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Me, caregiver, since September 8, 2020. It is really tough to live in this situation.

A Thunderstorm of Toxic Behavior

 

Written by Marc Chernoff

Surviving the ups, downs, and lightning storms of other people’s moodiness can be quite a challenge. It’s important, though, to remember that some moody people may be going through a difficult stage in their lives. They may be ill, chronically worried, or lacking what they need in terms of love and emotional support. Such people need to be listened to, supported, and cared for (although whatever the cause of their moodiness and negativity, you may still need to protect yourself from their behavior at times).

But there’s another type of moody, negative behavior: that of the toxic bully, who will use his or her mood swings to intimidate and manipulate. It's this aspect of moodiness that inflicts enduring abuse and misery. If you observe these people closely, you will often notice that their attitude is overly self-referential. Their relationships are prioritized according to how each one can be used to meet their selfish needs. This is a kind of toxic behavior . 

Move on without them.If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic. If you are suffering because of their attitude, and your compassion, patience, advice, and general attentiveness doesn’t seem to help them, and they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?”

When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm — it simply means you care about your own well-being.

Bears and Bees...

 

The aftermath of Bear damage. Last week a Black Bear found our Honeybees. There was only one box...and then there wasn't....

We found a little bit of the colony contents, some brood, Queen, and some workers.

We put these remains into a new box. And, after checking, these leftover remains are thriving in only 10 days...

I am hopeful that incident is not going to become a problem.