Little Things You Should Insist on Doing for Yourself Way More Often

Written by Marc Chernoff

holding your boundaries

When it happens, be sure to tune out the cheap shots people take at you. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. So before you waste it on anger, spite, or frustration, think of how precious and irreplaceable your time is, and carry on with grace.

And remember that not all toxic relationship situations are agonizing and uncaring on purpose. Some of them involve people who care about you — people who have good intentions, but are toxic because their needs and way of existing in the world force you to compromise yourself and your happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people to be spending time with every day.

You simply can’t ruin yourself on a daily basis for the sake of someone else. You have to create boundaries and make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone, loving a family member from a distance for a little while, letting go of a social obligation, or removing yourself from a daily situation that feels painful — you have every right to create some healthy space for yourself.

Grace

Written by Marc Chernoff

Give yourself more grace when things don’t go well.

It’s incredibly easy to overestimate the significance of a single decision, outcome, or event in the heat of the moment. But you must remind yourself to take a deep breath when things don’t go your way. Your results in the long run — good or bad — are always the byproduct of many small steps, outcomes, and events that transpire over time.

The truth is we all fail sometimes. The greater truth is that no single failure ever defines us. Learn from your mistakes, grow wiser, and press on. Character and wisdom are sculpted gradually. They come with loss, lessons, and triumphs. They come after doubts, second guesses, and uncertainty. The seeds of your success are planted in your past troubles and failures. Your best stories will come from overcoming your greatest challenges. Your praises will be birthed from your pains. So keep standing, keep learning, and keep living.

Be Yourself

 Written by Marc Chernoff

 Start being true to your values and convictions.

Rejections don’t matter that much in the long run. Accept them and refocus your attention on what does matter. What does matter is how you see yourself. So always make a habit of staying 100% true to your values and convictions, regardless of what others think. Never be ashamed of doing what feels right…

Intuition

 

 Make time be alone and let your mind run — especially in nature.

Many highly sensitive people need alone time, and it’s crucial for rebuilding this bond with your intuition, too. It’s necessary to get time and space away from others’ perceptions of the world in order to feel your own. 

And the best place for alone time? Outdoors. Research shows that spending time in nature is highly beneficial — there is something about spending time among trees, water, and mountains that echoes your innate rhythm and helps you reconnect with a deeper part of yourself. 

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Our intuition is guided by our unconscious mind; we “just know” that something is good or bad for us. Or maybe that something is going to happen (good or bad).

Premonition is a strong feeling that something is about to happen, especially something unpleasant.

I have experienced both, always have.

A few days ago, we were driving on a single lane forest road. A blind corner was ahead, he was driving fast. I had a strong feeling came to me that something was out of sight. We rounded the corner....and OMG, there were 2 small girls riding bicycles in the middle of the road. This is what I experience.

I have had many strange dreams recently. I am careful, what is going to happen. I just had three bad things happen...???

Looking For The Bright Side

 You can't change what has happened

in your ife, but you can choose 

how to deal with it.

Only you can choose your 

mood.