What to Do If Your Husband Is Constantly in a Bad Mood
By Luz Ivonne Ream Dec 26, 2017
What can you do if your husband is in a bad mood every day? Can you change a difficult personality?
We’ve all had days when everything seems to be irritating to the point where you just wish you could crawl under a blanket and never come out of the bed.
The situation gets more complicated when the bad mood is happening to your husband and even worse when it seems to never end. So what to do if your husband just seems to be cranky all the time and nothing cheers him up? And can you even do anything.
You need to realize though that whatever is bugging him, it’s almost never related to you. Most likely, he’s either feeling tired, bored, demotivated or just mad about his health or life in some other aspect. In most cases, there’s nothing you could do differently and even if his bad mood is triggered by you in some way, you’re not to blame in the way he reacts.
Believe me, if it’s hard for you to be with someone like that, try being that person. It’s even harder for them to live with themselves.
Emotional reactions are deeply personal and are never a reflection of the other person. Think of it this way: if you get angry at a pedestrian crossing the road from the wrong place, is the pedestrian really to blame in your anger? You could have just as well reacted completely neutrally.
In a moment of “lucidity,” when things have calmed down, talk about it and help them to understand how you feel when you see that them losing control.
You can make strategies and pacts, such as: “When I see that you are losing control or creating a negative atmosphere in the home, I will leave you alone and that will be the sign that you need to calm down.”
So as you see, reactions are related to our personal emotions, not to others. Offense is taken, not given, and the same applies to your husband’s moodiness. No matter the reason, his bad mood is in no way an implication of something you’ve done.
