Sooner or Later in life, everyone knows the Life is Not Fair. It's just that some of us learn it when we are young children. AND some of us have to experience the losses, many times. We see it many times around us, however it really strikes our heart when it is personal.
Life is not fair, it never was and it is now and it won't ever be. Do not fall into the trap. The entitlement trap, of feeling like you are a victim, You are not.
Quote by Matthew McConnaughey
This is an excerpt from The Atlantic Magazine.
Life Isn’t Fair
Belief in a just world can be shaken by any kind of disaster, but it can also provide psychological stability in that disaster’s aftermath. Among survivors of an earthquake, which killed nearly 90,000, those who lost family and friends were—not surprisingly—more likely than others to believe the universe was unfair. Yet those who continued to believe the universe was fair suffered the least anxiety and depression.
Faith in fairness does have a dark side. One study found that women who believe strongly that the world is fair are more likely than other women to blame the victim of a hypothetical stranger rape. And people who believe in a just world are less likely to hire a job candidate who’s been laid off . Even 3-year-olds like another child less when she is unlucky (gets hit by a baseball, say) than when she is lucky (sees a rainbow).
When bad things happen to good people, we sometimes convince ourselves that the bad things are in fact good things—blessings in disguise. After people’s appetite for justice was deliberately stoked, they tended to see a 30-year-old who had suffered a debilitating accident in childhood as enjoying a more meaningful life than one who hadn’t.
Such thoughts may ease the pain associated with injustice, and even lead to support for the status quo: Researchers found that when people felt powerless, they were more likely to say that race, class, and gender disparities were justified. Certain social institutions and ideologies, including religion and political conservatism, may further increase our complacence. In a series of surveys, respondents’ religiosity correlated with belief in a just world, belief that capitalism is fair, social and economic conservatism, acceptance of income inequality, and belief in the fairness of the American social system.
No, life’s not fair. And in a cruel twist, our wish to see it as fair keeps us from making it so.
And that is all I have to say about it!
